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Yeardley Love's Family Hopes 'One Love Day' Will End Dating Violence

Yeardley Love, a University of Virginia lacrosse player, was killed in 2010 by her ex-boyfriend. Now, her family is working to make the date of her death a national event to raise awareness about domestic violence.

Yeardley Love of Cockeysville was killed in 2010 by her ex-boyfriend. Credit: Screenshot from One Love Foundation
Yeardley Love of Cockeysville was killed in 2010 by her ex-boyfriend. Credit: Screenshot from One Love Foundation

As the four-year anniversary of the death of Yeardley Love nears, her family is lobbying Congress to pass legislation to make May 3 the “National One Love Day” that would raise awareness about dating violence.

The Cockeysville native and University of Virginia lacrosse player was beaten to death by her ex-boyfriend on May 3, 2010, reports WJZ TV. In 2012, George Huguely was convicted of second-degree murder in Yeardley’s death and is serving a 23-year sentence.

“I have two lives. My life before May 3, 2010 and my life after,” Sharon Love, the victim’s mother, told the TV station.

Love, 22, was killed by Huguely, 25, of Chevy Chase in a drunken rage just weeks before she was to graduate. Both played on the University of Virginia's elite lacrosse teams, reports ABC TV. Prior to the murder, Huguely had several run-ins with the law, including violent behavior. Three of these instances are outlined in a $30 million wrongful death lawsuit that Sharon Love has filed against the coaches at the University of Virginia.

Sharon and Yeardley’s sister, Lexie, have started the One Love Foundation to draw attention to domestic violence. Besides the bill in Congress, the foundation has created an awareness campaign about dating violence and two smartphone apps. The apps help people identify if they’re in an unhealthy relationship and offers ways to get help.

Maryland Congressman Dutch Ruppersberger is working to help pass the bill.

“Domestic violence is happening everywhere and we need to put a stop to it before an unfortunate situation like Yeardley Love’s death occurs,” Ruppersberger told WJZ.

Sharon Love hopes to get the legislation passed before May 3, 2015.

Amy B. February 18, 2014 at 09:40 PM
Help stop domestic violence with Bethany House of Northern Virginia http://www.bhnv.org/
ROBERT SCHROEDER February 19, 2014 at 07:10 AM
It would be better if people would not even date, I am sorry all. But people seem not to do dating right, dating people who get mad or even who done crimes [Maybe this is why girls - kid / women - adult never wanted me? They would go after other boys/men, but run from me [maybe not the right type? - lol]. I am sorry for this 22 year old & maybe someday more people will stop dating, but I hear there is a web site where people can check on others first [say it is free, but cost $, I know that everyone wants money. But not everyone has a job or rich.]. So it is really best not to date. You know them signs <enter @ your own risk>? Well this applies to all of life. I hope this bill will pass & then all dating will be the thing of the past! People should say or think 'Rather not get involved, I love him or her, but what will happen if I get them mad?' Think about it!
Polly February 19, 2014 at 08:05 AM
@ ROBERT SCHROEDER - don't you think that's a bit extreme? We all need to feel and be loved, it's natural. Girls/women for some reason I'll never understand do seem to go after the bad boys. Most romantic relationships do not involve any form of domestic abuse, thankfully. We need to teach our children how to see the signs and get out safely. So many of the abusers have come from abusive homes themselves, it's such a vicious cycle and someone along the way needs to stop it. I did, so I know it can be done. I'm sorry you feel no one has ever wanted you. That would be a good time for some serious self reflection. It would be so sad for you to go through life alone. Peace!
Kim Cooke February 19, 2014 at 08:40 AM
Thank goodness for fine people like Yeardley, and God save us from boys who are afraid of women and so insecure they blame them for their condition. It's hard to tell whether this killer was born that way, created by his family, or by others around him. All the warning signs were there, not the least of which was years of drunken and destructive behavior. Unfortunately, but predictably, he managed to wriggle out of this one and will be out before you know it. I wonder what would have happened if she'd been murdered by a poor black boyfriend, or if she'd flown into a jealous rage and killed him.
Interrobang February 19, 2014 at 08:58 AM
What is ROBERT SCHROEDER proposing? Only arranged marriages allowed?
ROBERT SCHROEDER February 19, 2014 at 09:00 AM
You are right we all do need love, I had forgot that part that God gives us all a mate. So please forgive me all.
ROBERT SCHROEDER February 19, 2014 at 09:06 AM
it was kind of harsh of me to say that, God gave us all the right to chose who we want to date, if people did not date or marry then where would we be? Sorry, it is just that I never seen any good from my life. My dad has a romantic girlfriend & told me to keep my eyes & ears open. I should not condemn all romantic relationships as my dad tells me that not all are bad. So now I feel kind of sad I posted that, please forgive me & delete that post. Thanks.
ROBERT SCHROEDER February 19, 2014 at 09:18 AM
Amen Kim, & I guess this goes back to how we are to get an ok by our parents first. When I got married in 2001 my dad + sister + the staff where I lived. Did not want me to marry here as she does not pay her rent & uses people, but my dad told me to listen to my step-sister who met her & told me it was ok. She told me she will tell my dad when she goes to where he & her mom is [overseas to a Christian play], so she let then my dad called me so I told thanked him. He told me he sent no such e-mail from the ship saying it was ok to marry, so I came close to losing everything [lost my apartment to give it up to move to her wheelchair apartment]. So 1 night [after he got back home] I was praying, then crying. So while my wife slept I got on the computer to e-mail my dad to tell him I am sorry & that I want out, then went back to bed, God heard me & him so the divorcee was finely done in 2004. But I should not tell others how they are to be as this is telling people what to do, so again I am sorry & fell bad. Have a blessed day.
pam johnson February 19, 2014 at 10:14 AM
So sad for Yeardley and her family. We need to make this (now silent) subject loud and clear to our daughters. Know the warning signs and cut and RUN early. Don't give these sick men time to get obsessed with you. Too many nice girls end up in these marriages. Many times the cycle of abuse his handed down in families. The abuser may appear to be great guy to the outside world but is a monster at home. Any man who hurts a woman or child is a sick coward. We need to watch for signs of anger and instill respect for women to our sons too. God bless the Love family in their lifetime of grief. So sad.
pam johnson February 19, 2014 at 10:18 AM
(Robert: I think you can delete your own posts. Hang in there.)
Captain Cook February 19, 2014 at 12:58 PM
As long as rich, spoiled, pretty boys who get everything they want are around, this will go on. "No" is not in the orbit of these entitled gimmie's. Parents of them start the process early. In this case thank goodness the rich grandpa couldn't buy the kids get out of jail card.
pam johnson February 21, 2014 at 12:21 PM
Don't know what rich, pretty boys have to do with it... Lets not lump all rich people into THIS category!! Lots of great families out there that are wealthy b/c of a lifetime of hard work (and good parenting).
Polly February 21, 2014 at 02:05 PM
@ pam Johnson - how about spoiled rich kids, whose parents didn't parent him at all. he was always getting into trouble and all they did was keep bailing him out. did you hear about the recent teen drunk driver that killed I think 4 people and his defense was "affluenza" (google that) his defense attorney stated that his parents never made him suffer any consequences for his bad behavior so he just didn't know any better. he didn't get any jail time but, has to go to a rehab facility for a period and then 10 years of probation. I hardly think that's even remotely any kind of justice for the innocent victims that he killed.
Sir February 24, 2014 at 12:12 AM
@polly - spousal abuse has no economic boundaries. Whether rich, middle class or poor, it happens.
james smith February 24, 2014 at 10:39 AM
All these responses and not a single one of them mentions alcohol. If alcohol were taken out of this picture, this never would have happened, and neither would have thousands of other violent attacks on college women every year. Women want the freedom to binge drink, get drunk and act like fools as they believe it is part of their liberation. Why don't women and the parents who are against domestic violence campaign against alcohol and drugs? Obviously because they believe that their little child can do no wrong. Yeardley Love knew he was a drunk and had a severe drinking problem and she did absolutely nothing. It is just as much her fault as it is his. Her parents and sister won't even address the issue. When a person is a pedestrian or behind the wheel of a vehicle and they see a crazy driver or accident in the making, they have a duty to get out of the way to avoid injury. Likewise, these women have a duty to get out of the way of domestic violence. If a gun was involved, you can believe everyone would be blaming the gun, yet alcohol (and maybe drugs) was so obviously involved here, and no one says a word. Hey women, isn't it wonderful to be liberated?
Kim Cooke February 24, 2014 at 11:03 AM
James, there's no hope for anyone blaming the woman. Shame on you.
james smith February 24, 2014 at 12:03 PM
Just what I thought you would say Kim; you liberated women can do no wrong. The victim, her parents, her sister, his dorm roommates, his teammates, his coaches and his parents all KNEW he had a terrible drinking problem, and all of them did NOTHING!! Why???? If someone had done something, a life could have been saved!!

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